Hello, 2017! It’s a New Year full of hope and promise that this year things will be different. If one of the changes you have been putting off is ending your marriage, now is the time to give careful thought to where you would like to be next year when we ring in 2018.
For lots of folks, FEAR is the biggest reason they stay trapped in an unhappy marriage. Don’t stay suspended in misery. Take action and do something to change your situation. Here’s some things you can pro-actively do even if you are not ready to ask for a divorce:
- DO YOUR HOMEWORK: Often fear comes from lack of knowledge. Do your homework about divorce. An affordable consultation with me can educate you on the timeline of divorce, the law on custody, support and property, how these laws apply to your situation and what choices you have to proceed. I can also help you come up with a list of documents you will need for your divorce. You should have this meeting BEFORE you ask your spouse for a divorce
- WORK ON THE RELATIONSHIP: Ask you spouse to attend couple’s counseling with you. You can call my office for several great local couple’s counselors. Even if you are unable to repair your marriage, improving your communication through counseling can make a big difference in how well your divorce goes.
- WORK ON YOURSELF: Get Therapy for yourself so you can make clear-headed decisions and personal support. Exercise. Keep a Journal. Make a budget and prepare yourself for divorce.
If you spent 2016 thinking about divorce, don’t let another year go by without trying to change your situation. Divorce is a big decision and never an easy choice. Get the facts and prepare yourself before you make the leap and promise yourself THIS year will be different.